Part I: Am I enough
Comparing ourselves to others never ends well. We end up being hard on ourselves, “why can’t I look more like them?” , “why can’t I act more like that?”, “why can’t I be as good at that as they are?”
It’s a vicious and destructive place to be, putting ourselves next to others and playing “spot the difference”
The truth is, you COULD be as good as that person. You COULD have that skill that they have, with hard work and determination. Maybe.
But maybe that’s not what you’re meant to look like or be good at. Maybe that’s not where your talent lies. And that’s fine- frustrating at times, but ultimately fine.
You are your own person, as cliche as that sounds, it’s true. You are unique and you are beautiful.
Yes you can change your appearance by wearing make up, maybe working out or whatever, but being happy with who you are is more than just outward appearance.
The way you act and the way you treat others has a strong impact on who you are.
Are you enough?
These are things you can change by your actions- BE kinder, treat people right. Study hard and focus- get help if you need it. Tell the truth and be open about things.
Are you enough?
These things are more complicated. But the thing about beauty is that it’s only skin deep. Fashion trends change- in times gone by, it was considered ugly to be skinny and the height of beauty to be “fat”. “Fat” shouldn’t be a label and it shouldn’t be an insult, just as “skinny” shouldn’t be a label OR a compliment.
Riches, well consider this, would you rather have all the money in the world and no friends? Or all the friends in the world but no money? Chances are if you had lots of money, hundreds of people would want to be your friend for the perks but when the going gets tough, would they be there? But if you had little money but true friends, I’m sure you would never be stuck if you needed to borrow a few pounds!
My point here is that even if you think you’re not “enough” it’s not true. The worlds view on you is not final and your view on you is not final either. Finding true happiness and contentment is being happy with who you are… And once you do that, you’ll find that you are “enough”.